Finding Dory

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Help needed for the Poppy of Honour 2018

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We have commissioned a giant Remembrance Poppy to be constructed of steel and glass when erected will stand;
2.600 mm high;  2.200 mm wide and 300 mm in depth.
There will be 1,115,471 individual Poppies with Rank, Name and Date of KIA/MIA of every British and Commonwealth soldier lost during World War 1.
Including the Names of 800 women killed in WW1 and the 306 soldiers who were shot at dawn, and have been granted a Royal pardon.
Each individual Poppy will be hand written with the Rank, Name and date they were Killed in Action or Missing in action.
Each individual Remembrance Poppy will be written by Individuals, Associations, Companies, Groups, Schools and Universities.
Each individual hand written Poppy will be permanently sealed inside the glass and steel Poppy, only when the last hand written Poppy is placed inside,
a box will be enclosed with small vials containing earth and small artifacts from the Battlefields of World War 1.
60 Million soldiers were mobilised during World War 1.
8 Million soldiers killed or missing in action.
7 Million soldiers permanently disabled.
15 Million soldiers seriously wounded.
Commonwealth Countries provided 2,5 million men to fight in World War 1.
As well as thousands of volunteers, some were women!
These men were loved ones, someone’s Son, Brother, Father or Uncle and we hope this memorial will ensure that they are Remembered and the sacrifice they made for future generations.
We are hoping that this memorial will become the Peoples Memorial to those who never returned to their loved ones or Native Countries
If you are interested in getting involved in the Poppy of Honour 2018 or
 You would like to volunteer to write Names onto Poppies’.
If you are interested in getting involved in the Poppy of Honour 2018 or
 You would like to volunteer to write Names onto Poppies’.
Fill in our form on ournwebpage or Contact Us 

https://www.poppyofhonour2018.org.uk/

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​A Soldier’s Promise .

I cannot promise you every night of my life. I cannot promise to be beside you for every difficult moment, every trial, every hardship. In truth, I can promise you that I will not be with you for most. I will leave you at inconvenient times. I may miss the births of our children. Any special date to us may be tainted with the anniversary of the death of one of my friends. I will ask you to take over whatever life we have built together for months and years at a time. And will then crash back into that life that you have used your sweat and your tears and your heartache to keep together and try to take it back as I knew it before. I will shut you out at times because it will be the best way for me to hold it together at that moment. I will lie to you. I will tell you I don’t know things when I do. I will not always tell you where I am going, when I will be back, or who I am with. I may not call you for weeks and months and you will not be able to call me. You will ask questions that I won’t answer. You will know answers to questions that you will hope you never need. I will share things with my brothers that you will never understand. They will know things about me that you never will. They will be a support to me in some things that you cannot be. I will miss birthdays. I will miss anniversaries. I will have to get to know our children over and over again. I may need time to process things that seem natural to everyone else. It will seem that someone – or something – will always take precedence over you. You may lose me long before you ever thought possible. I will uproot you and ask you to re-establish our family anywhere in the world, in any season, at any time – over and over again. Sand and mud will be tracked through your halls from the boots I am too tired to take off. I will leave you when you beg me not to. I will stand at attention while you cry beside me. I will not turn my head and I will walk away. I will knowingly break your heart. And I will do it again – and again.

I cannot promise you all of me. I cannot promise that to our children. I cannot promise you much of anything.
But if you will have me, I can promise that as I march away from you it is not without sharing your heartache. I promise you that every time I break your heart I will be breaking mine. Every time that I cannot answer you I will be protecting you. Whenever you want to call and you have no number to dial I will be wanting to do the same. I will protect everything that we have created together with every fiber of my being while you do the same back at home. I will honor you in everything – every moment that we are apart and every moment that I am with you. I will fight harder and push further knowing that I do so for you. I will see the faces of our children in every life that I protect. And I will carry you with me in everything until my sandy boots once again sit just inside our door. ♥

End of the ‘White Helmets’ the Royal Signals Motorcycle Display Team

So by now, most people would have seen the announcement from the Royal Corps of Signals regarding the disbandment of the ‘White Helmets’ the Royal Signals Motorcycle Display Team

“We can confirm that after 90 years entertaining and thrilling crowds with their dazzling arena displays the iconic ‘White Helmets’ the Royal Signals Motorcycle Display Team’s forthcoming season will be its last.
The Royal Signals has come a very long way since those formative days using motorbikes to carry messages across the battlefield and are now ‘Leaders in a Digital Age’, using cutting edge communications technology to carry out its vital work (including in Cyber capabilities) with highly trained personnel at the helm operating it.
The team, the oldest and most famous motorcycle display team in the world, has made a considerable contribution over the years to the Army’s Community Engagement activities performing spectacular feats of balance, death defying crossover rides and outstanding acrobatics to thousands of people at home and abroad. The general public will have their final chance to see the team as they tour in 2017!
Personnel employed within the team will return to their core responsibilities in the Field Army.
This decision is not financially motivated and is about modernisation.”
Announcement 

This decision has come as quite a shock especially for me as most of you know my son is one of the current team members…. So this blog entry is a post to show how proud I am, not just of my son, but also the whole of the team who become like family to each other…. 

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I remember the day that my son Ben had his graduation ceremony for the white helmets… I was nervous, but also very proud….

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Then Ben jumped through the fire. My heart was in my mouth as Ben went through and burnt all his face.

 

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To this day he still has his “Tiger” stripes on his face. A sign of bravery some would say? More like stupidity lol…

 

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I said before that the team are more like family and this is because they have to learnt to trust each other. They have to know that their colleagues have their back when doing these stunts. Like this stunt where the one crouching lets the ones on the floor know that a bike is coming by using his hand to signal.

Some have said that the white helmets are just a drain and they are glad it has been canned… I would love to see these people do these stunts… Its not just about riding a motorbike round a display ground. Its about connecting with the audience and showing them that the forces isn’t just about going to war. They rehearse and train for months beforehand. They are currently on training camp as I write this and their graduation for the new white helmets is April… in between shows they are training….

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I think one of the teams defining moment was being on “Through the keyhole” with Keith lemon… Years ago Anthea Turner was sitting on the edge of a truck and the scene was a motorcycle would jump of behind here.. Infact as it did it caught her hair on fire… So they used the White Helmets as a clue….

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Watching my son and his team mates do these stunts can be fun, but it is also scary and heart in mouth times for me… The thing I love the most about these displays is the children in the audience and their screams of delight as the bang on the fire happens, or when a rider jumps the car

or the screams when the white helmets play chicken with each other.

If you’re in any of the below places this year, make sure you go along and watch the last year of the White Helmets:

https://www.facebook.com/pg/White-Helmets-The-Royal-Signals-Motorcycle-Display-Team

8th April – 2017 Graduation Ceremony – Blandford
22nd April – St George’s Day Festival – Lytham St Anne
29th April – 1st May – Abbey Hill Steam Rally – Yeovil
7th May – Durweston May Fair – Blandford
14th May – South Suffolk Show – Newmarket
31st May – 8th June – TT Races – Isle of Man
10th June – Families Day DMS Whittington- Lichfield
14th June – Downlands School – Blandford
15th June – Garrison Retreat Ceremony – Blandford
17th June – RSA Reunion – Blandford
18th June – RMAS Heritage Day Camberley
24th June – Armed Forces Day – TBC
8th – 9th July – Rempstone Country Fair – Leicestershire
15th July – Colchester Show – Essex
20th July – 22 Signals Regiment Families Day – Stafford
23rd July – Bikewise
11th – 12th August – Shrewsbury Flower Show – Shropshire
24th – 28th August – Great Dorset Steam Fair – Tarrant Hinton
1st – 3rd Sept – Chats worth Country Fair – Derbyshire
9th Sept – Normanton Gala – Yorkshire
16th September- Preston Military Show – Lancashire
30th September – Closing Ceremony – Blandford

Lets give the white helmets the ultimate send off and show them your support because they’re an amazing bunch of lads that have spent the past few years making other people happy with their shows…..

If you also want to show your support please do feel free to sign the petition that someone created to try and stop this decision.. https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/183035

So this blog post is for you ‘White Helmets’ the Royal Signals Motorcycle Display Team. Thank you for 90 years of displays and lots of “oh” and “Ah” moments…

Ode to an Army wife 

​An Army Wife she wears a mask, accepts her role no questions asked. Army quarters we do our best, but boy our patience they do test. They send our soldiers far & wide, but our feelings we learn to hide. We are often lonely,scared & sad & to be honest a little mad. But when the years have all gone by, and we ask ourselves why oh why? We’ve known the answer all along, because it’s in our soldiers arms we belong x x x

Anon 

Week in Bourners world

So it has been a little over a week since I last updated my blog. Lots of things have been happening from uni work to mingling with stars in Bromley…..

The week started with my normal trip to uni where I curse every slow driver and shake my head in desperation at lorries making my travel time even longer… There seems to be a lot of traffic on the road between Blandford and Bournemouth at the moment and especially from 07.30 onwards! If I leave home at 07.30, it takes me until nearly 09.30 to travel 22 miles to Bournemouth! If I leave at 07.00, it takes me until between 07.55 and 08.10 to travel the same distance! Every morning though there is a Nissan micra whose top speed must be 25 MPH and it likes to hold up all the traffic! This one car can cause a 2 mile tail back and they don’t seem to have a care in the world! It grips my shit lol and breathe!

So after abusing a few drivers, I came across this van and I was quite happy to sit behind it…

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It took the boredom away of being in a traffic jam for 10 minutes anyway…..

So Uni this week was overloading my brain…. I had an assignment due in on Tuesday and this was me towards the end of last week…

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I was on the verge of quitting lol..There was so much to do and rather than attack things in little chunks, I was looking at it in huge chunks and thinking OH MY GOD… I am never going to be able to do this, but low and behold, I did manage to do it and I submitted my essay 4 days early, phew.. That is a first for me.. Normally I am panicking at the last-minute…. So now I was more like this:

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So once this essay was handed in, the week was mostly mine and I was looking forward to so much….. I have kept up with one of my goals of keeping fit and every week I join this mad bunch of people in Clubbercise.

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This was taken before we started so we all look quite normal in this lol… Give it 10 minutes and once Ricky has started with us we are crawling along the floor….

Last weekend hubby and I celebrated 6 years together so we went away to Bromley for the weekend, I know not the most romantic place, but needs must…

My husband is one of the most amazing and supportive people I know. When he is away and I am down, he sends me crazy pictures like this to cheer me up.

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Last weekend wasn’t just about mine and hubbies anniversary… 3 years ago while on honeymoon in Sousse, Tunisia, we met an amazing couple Neil and Sabrina and their son Jake…. One of Neil’s best friends is Fabrizio Santino who played Ziggy Roscoe in Hollyoaks… Well as a big Hollyoaks fan this excited me loads 🙂 A few weeks ago Neil asked if I wanted to meet Fab and I was like “Do you really need to ask”! Silly question really… Not only did I get to meet Fab, I also met some really great people who I will be friends with for life…..

So this weekend we travelled to Bromley and our first stop was El Parasol Tapas in Bromley which is owned by Fab’s uncle and it is a truly amazing place. The staff are so helpful and nothing is too much trouble for them..Sitting with Fab having tapas was a surreal experience… He is a normal, down to earth Londoner who likes a laugh and is definitely a cheeky chappie… It was kind of weird sitting with who I knew as Ziggy Roscoe from Hollyoaks listening to him talk and imagining Leila telling me off for chatting to her husband lol…… After dinner we were then moved into Fab’s new bar next door Bar Rumour where we spent a little while as the only ones in the club, which was an experience.. His bar is lush and very posh, too posh for the likes of dragged up me lol….

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The whole night was amazing… Meeting new friends like Symone and her partner Martin who have the same sense of humour as shane I was brilliant… The night ended up in condiments in packets being launched at each other and just fits of hysterical giggles….

So that has been the past week for me and every day I thank my lucky stars for the amazing people I have in my life, the ones missing and my new friends….

Reflections

So it’s been nearly a year since my last post, but I am back and better than ever. So this post is a reflection on what has happened over the past 12 months and what my plans are for 2017..

The last time I posted I was on my first placement of my mental health student nurse journey… Since that placement I have done 2 more and I can now say that I qualify next year in 2018 🙂 I am really proud of myself because I have come a long way to where I am today.. Someone who is more confident and more positive and much more of a fighter…. I tell myself everyday how lucky I am to be a student mental health nurse and how privileged I am to be involved in the care of the patients I work with, especially when they are in the acute phase of their illness.

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So this past year has had many highs and some lows…. I often wanted to quit my nursing degree because I am not academic at all, even now while I am writing this it is a distraction from the essay that is waiting for me with a due date in 10 days time! I am the world’s best procrastinator…. If there was an olympic sport I would excel in it….

So where is the best place to start? I’ll start with how it all started…..

In January 2011 I started dating a 22 year old. I never thought it would get serious, I mean come on I was 39 years old! What would a 22 year old soldier want with an old hag like me? I had just come out of a long term relationship and I was a single mum to 4 amazing children and I didn’t have the energy to deal with another person in my life at the moment, so I thought I would have some fun. For those not accustomed to the term, we had a “Friends with benefits” 🙂 relationship… Only thing was, was we fell in love!

I remember discussing with a good friend that I had fallen in love and what should I do because he was 17 years younger than me… That good friend told me to go with it and just enjoy it… She said even if we just had 5 years, it would be 5 years of fun I wouldn’t of had if I had walked away…..

I took that advice and this month we have been together 6 years and this July we will be celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary… Times haven’t always been easy, this life is no picnic in the woods or walk in the park and there have been times where I have really wondered why I was married to a soldier, especially when they miss your birthday or you cannot go home for christmas because they are working, but I know I wouldn’t change it for the world and I am glad I took that leap…

Being an army wife can sometimes be a lonely existence. When you move onto a camp you start making friends and then their husbands get posted and they move again, but when you make friends with a forces wife, you make friends forever. This year I went to my first ever wives christmas function with a good friend Danni… What an amazing night and an amazing friend I have in Danni.. Spending New Years Eve with Danni and her family and friends was awesome… I even learnt new German words! some not fit for public consumption I might add…

 

I am also lucky to have one of my children living on camp which means I get to see him a lot too even though most of the time it is when he is doing dangerous stunts as he is part of the White Helmets who the army motorcycle display team.

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So what has the past year been like for me? I have had some exciting times like going to Fuerteventura in March, Antalya in October and a girls weekend away to Weymouth in October which meant I got to see friends that live in my hometown and that I don’t get to see very often…. I have lows like missing my children and also failing an assignment which saw me having to wait until 3 days before the start of the new term to see if I was going into year 2, but all in all this past year has been a pretty good year and I am looking forward to 2017 and what it has in store for me….

So let’s start showing you my last year, not just in words, but in pictures…..

My dogs are such a huge part of my life. Ted the turd is a mummies boy and follows me like a turd on a string, everywhere I go. Isobel bitch bag used to be a mummies girl, but now as soon as daddy comes home she is off like some floozy traitor lol… They have such amazing personalities. If they were humna, Ted would be a london gangster and Isobel would be a parisian princess who daren’t get her paws dirty or wet…When the hubby is away, they are the ones waiting for me when I get home with their tails wagging…. Even now, Ted is laying on the sofa watching my every move….

 

So we all know about honey G, but I bet you didn’t know that our family has its own Honey G aka Minge Kennett my mother in law! When the Kennett’s and Bourner’s get together it’s a  crazy time like the time in Turkey (2016) when we crammed into a lift and my brother in law Reece wanted to take a photo or when we went to a Halloween party, with the below being the end result 🙂

 

I am not normally a bling person, but when your husband takes you into the local Pandora shop and tells you to pick anything you like, well I am going to go for something that stands out as it’s my first ever piece of Pandora…. However I am still a shrewd person and went for the cheapest one possible….

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Being able to afford things sometimes is a novelty for me… I’ve never had money and always had to scrape by… There were times in my life that I went hungry so that my children could eat.. Something that I have only told people recently because they preferred to believe other things about me rather than ask me the truth… You see, when you’re down and don’t have enough money or need help, i’ll be there and would give you my last penny to help you.. Which is why, when I got the chance to help the homeless this christmas in Dorset I jumped at it. The best way to make you appreciate what you have , however little, is to visit and work with those who have nothing and yet are more happier than those who have everything. One of the people who were homeless had made a christmas tree out of tin foil and used scraps of tinsel to make it look better… He had made his home in an underground car park out of sight of people. When we gave him a christmas present he cried…He couldn’t believe that people were being so nice to him.

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My in laws also do their bit for charity, but due to husbands work and my student nurse placements, we were only able to appreciate this from Christmas eve until Boxing day before we had to come back to Dorset… Every year my inlaws and others in Westfield, Hastings, East sussex, put christmas lights up to raise money for St Michaels Hospice in Hastings. This year everyone involved raised £11,642.61

 

So people that know me, know I love scenery and love living in Dorset. On my last placement at St Ann’s I used to walk down the hill to this view at Sandbanks. This photo was taken in November!… What a truly amazing place to live in…

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Hubby and I love walking the dogs exploring Dorset. On a recent trip to Wareham forest, we came across this christmas tree in the forest all decorated.

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Over the recent bank holiday Hubby and I decided to finally visit Durdle door. If you type Dorset into google, then the image it shows is Durdle door. I am so lucky to be able to live near such beautiful places! I truly feel blessed.

 

Hubby even got me to walk up this hill, well I  say walk, I crawled on all fours because I am scared of heights. It doesn’t look high and is very deceiving  until you get to the top and see the other side that is like a sheer drop into the water, well that was me done! I just sat there like a crow and waited for hubby to do what he needed to do up there and then with legs like jelly, descended back down to civilisation….

 

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Once down we walked along the gorgeous beach. The water was so crystal clear…. The photo below of my wellies is actually me standing in the sea….

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Through the years I have changed a lot and the below photo’s show just how much.

 

So what does 2017 have in store for me? Since starting my Post graduate diploma in Mental Health Nursing, I have found confidence and opened my eyes to lots of other things so this year my goals are:

  1. To get fit –  I have already started by going to Clubbercise every friday night in Poole. It’s like going clubbing as you get glow sticks and the lights are turned off and all your favourite 90’s music like Children by Robert Miles, Call on me by Eric Prydz etc are played while you do aerobic exercise. The only thing missing is the bottle of bud 🙂 I am even toying with joining Ricky’s class for Insanity at the end of the month… .One step at a time friends
  2.  To stop procrastinating and to start on my assignments as soon as I get them… I have always found academic work hard… All the theory gets me down… The trouble is understanding what is required of me… Once I understand it, I can do it to an extent…. Give me placements any day, I love them and my grades for placements show just how much I learn while I am there…. I am determined to I will pass and be a mental health nurse in 2018!
  3.  To teach myself French… I bought the kit a few years ago and have never used it… It is time to start and to teach myself French…..
  4. To teach myself British Sign Language…. I started this a few years ago and never finished so now it is time to start this again and by the end of this year I will be able to hold a conversation..
  5. To do the jar challenges

 

So that’s been my past year and also my next year’s goals…. What does 2017 have in store for you?