Sitges 2018

When thinking about how to write this post and what to put in it, I was wondering  how  I would do that without people thinking I have been brainwashed into some cult or that it is some sort of scam! You see over this past week I have experienced and seen some of the most amazing things that I want to share with the world and I am truly buzzing….

On the 2nd May, I boarded a plane bound for Sitges in Spain. This wasn’t a holiday, this was a chance to spend some time with my up lines and to learn more about the business I am in…

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The day we left had already been a very special day with someone coming back into my life, so I felt like I was already flying high above the clouds…

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We got to our apartment in the early hours of the morning and after a few hours sleep and lots of coffee we spent some time around Sitges having breakfast

 

 

 

After breakfast a trip to Barcelona was in order 🙂 On leaving Sitges it was sunny and warm, however in Barcelona it was raining, but that didn’t stop us having fun… We walked around the city looking at things and taking it all in…..

 

 

 

After Barcelona, we went back to Sitges to our room and got ready to go and have some dinner…. One of the ladies in our group had just reached pink status so our lovely up line bought a bottle of champagne to recognise this….

 

 

 

Only trouble was this champagne led to more alcohol and dodgy dancing from me in a gay nightclub which was right next door to our apartments 🙂 , but what a blast that night was….. Especially when they tried to get us to leave and had to play, so long, farewell to get us to leave lol…..  Well they shouldn’t have made us feel so welcome in the nightclub lol.

 

The next day I woke up feeling not too bad… Although Ally did have to put me to bed the night before lol…. ….

This day I was so looking forward to as it was the start of the Global Leaders summit 2018…. As soon as you walk into the auditorium the music is pumping and the DJ is rocking that place so much that you just cannot help but dance 🙂

 

Today was our registration day and our FREE swag day eeekkkk…. I was not disappointed….

In our pack we were given a charm, a phone charger, pop sock which attaches to your phone so you can take the perfect selfie without it shaking…. A drinks bottle, badges, A purse, Lip gloss and blusher and much more….. This company just keeps on giving…..

 

For today’s session we got to meet the vice presidents for each country. These VP’s are just amazing.. They are funny and kind and just so full of knowledge…. We got to meet Tori Poulter the chief sales officer… Tori was having pictures taken with people and I asked for one…. I am 5ft and Tori is a stunning tall lady…. Tori said ” I know what’s wrong with this picture” and brought her top half down to my level.. Amazing lady that thinks of others way more than herself….

The session started with this video which I will just let you watch rather than explain it:

 

Later on we got to meet Louise White the VP for the UK and Ireland in a separate session where one of the founders, Melanie Huscroft came into the session and spoke to us…. What other company founder comes in and talks to people? Melanie gave this quote which struck a cord with me….

If you want to be happy for a day – Go fishing,
If you want to be happy for a week – Buy a new car,
If you want to be happy for a lifetime – Make it your mission to serve others… 

Part of this serving others came in the form of the service incentive trip to Hawaii… Here the company revamped a women’s shelter buying all new items, toys, white goods for the kitchen, a new minibus…. They painted and decorated and even the founders got stuck in with everything…. You can see more of this trip here:

The next day we had more training and got to meet Bob Heilig who helps with personal branding and much more… What an inspiration he is to listen to….

I also got to meet this amazing man…. You may think there is nothing special about Diego, but he is a male make up artist recognised by our company which is mainly women… That’s a huge step…

 

 

Not only did the company provide us with lunch and breakfast and had given us free swag the day before…. Today they gave us a make up bag and 2 lots of eyeshadow…..

 

During our next lot of training, something magical happened…. If you don’t know a lot about this company, then let me tell you about the foundation that this company is built on…..

In the beautiful mountains of Utah there is a building call the ‘Haven Retreat’ and that building is a place that women who are survivors of childhood sexual abuse can go for help for free… All they have to do is get themselves there…

https://www.youniquefoundation.org/the-haven-retreat/

On the first day of our training we were given a goal to raise as much money as possible to send 3 people to this retreat….

It was during one of our training sessions that it was discovered one of the ladies who was here for the training is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. A team who were here together discovered this and stood up and clubbed together the flight money for her! They had never met this lady, but they felt the need to help her…. This is what being a Ysister is all about… I cried so much for this lady……

I came away from my time in Sitges with new found confidence and friends. I had ladies who I didn’t know tell me they believed in me and I felt like I could take on anything and win every time…..

I now believe in myself because others believed in me ….

Thank you Sitges for an amazing time x x x

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Happy 18th birthday Jack

When your child becomes 18 it should be a happy event, birthday parties, balloons, getting so drunk they have to be carried home and getting that symbolic key into adulthood… However when your child is no longer with you, it is a day of reflection on what could have been…

Remembering that day on August 19th 1999 when Jack slipped quietly into this world will forever be etched in my mind.

The birth of a child should be a fantastic event where even though you are in pain, you know this pain will be all worth it…. Sadly when Jack was born, although they had promised to make me as comfortable as possible with gas and air and pethidine, I had to give birth in a room on the postnatal ward of the conquest hospital in Hastings because the midwives on the labour ward had said that I would upset the other mothers. Also as they knew that my son would die during labour or shortly afterwards they felt that I did not need to be on the labour ward… I was devastated because all I could hear were crying newborns all around me.. However when my son Jack entered the world, everything was silent… It was if the babies instinctively knew that Jack had died and they were being respectful. Not a single baby cried and all you could hear was the thunderstorm rumbling in the distance…

After spending some time with Jack, the midwives asked for his body to take to the mortuary and with that he was gone…. My only saving grace during this period were my 3 children, Neil, Hayden and Benjamin… They kept me strong….

The funeral directors (Hinkley’s funeral directors in Hastings) were amazing and they had a little white coffin made for Jack and allowed letters, photos and teddies to be put in his coffin… We had a funeral/cremation for Jack and my ex husband (Jacks daddy) was allowed to carry the coffin into the crematorium.. They did this all for free including the funeral service and cremation.

To this day I still have Jack’s ashes and my husband has been instructed that Jack is only to be buried when I am gone and his ashes mixed with mine… Jack’s ashes are in a forever friends box that my mother bought me and they are buried in this pot…

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At night it all lights up spectacularly as if Jack is shining on me…

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I thank Jack for coming into my life, however brief, because he gives me great strength and courage when I am feeling down or sad… I sometimes wonder if he sacrificed himself for his sister as Rhiannon was born at 25 weeks gestation, just a mere 9 months after Jack died….  There will always be the “What ifs” or the “Whys”, but for today Jack it is to say that I love you and I am always thinking about you….

Happy 18 birthday Jack 

 

If you or someone you know has suffered the loss of a baby, there is always help… You can email me at melaniebourner@gmail.com and I will always listen…..

There are also some great professional places that will help…

https://www.uk-sands.org/

https://babyloss-awareness.org/charities/

http://www.babyloss.com/

https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/pregnancy-complications/pregnancy-loss/stillbirth/grieving-your-baby-after-stillbirth

SANDS unofficial facebook page – https://www.facebook.com/groups/187990577978245/

Who are Younique and what are they about?

Younique are a family. It’s not just about selling a product it’s about empowering women to be whoever they want to be..

Younique was started by Derek Maxfield and Melanie Huscroft, a brother-and-sister team, in September 2012 with a mission to uplift, empower, and validate women across the globe. Derek and Melanie firmly believe that all women should feel valued, smart, and empowered through opportunities for personal growth and financial reward!

Younique founded Younique Foundation in 2014, to help bring healing to victims of childhood sexual abuse and raises awareness to prevent sexual abuse. Did you know that 1 in 4 women will be sexually abused before age 18. 60% of these women will never talk about it. 90% of these women know their abusers.

The Younique foundation owns the Haven Retreat where women survivors of childhood sexual abuse can go for FREE (you just have to pay for your travel)  and where they learn about:

Education – Understanding trauma and the impact of abuse provides a necessary foundation to apply healing tools and strategies.

Acceptance – That all women are worthy of living their best lives and all survivors deserve to be free from the pain of sexual abuse.

Community –  No one understands the healing journey as well as another survivor. The Haven is in a beautiful mountain environment where you can disconnect from day-to-day life and build a support community of other survivors.

Younique Foundation

The Younique foundation builds on survivors of sexual abuse reclaiming hope.

When you buy from me, you’re not only getting an amazing product, but you’re helping women survivors of childhood sexual abuse and as a survivor I thank you from the bottom of my heart x

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